It's hard...but I'm avoiding some negative people who have been important to me for years. In the back of my mind, there's always been an awareness that some of my friends would drift away once our children (theirs neuro-typical, mine not) developed at different rates, despite being the same age. One friend recently made fun of someone she knows, also on the spectrum, and blissfully prattled on about how she wouldn't socialize with him because he consistently did things that were textbook behaviors for people with autism. I don't know what hurt more. That she would cruelly ridicule someone who was, in fact, trying to be social and kind to her, or that she had the gall to say to me, as a preface to the story, "Make sure your boys don't do this." So, even though I am sure that I will feel the loss of that one friendship for a long time, I will distance myself. There's no where to go from here for us. So, you see? Sometimes an act of lagniappe can be getting rid of a little something extra that is cluttering up your life!
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AuthorIn my head, I'm still 25. I'm so not, so it's a good thing my boys keep me young....except for when they remind me I'm the oldest person in the house. Archives
April 2015
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